其实幸福（可以）很简单。。

Met up with Kel a few days ago to share our stories.. Was sitting at the viewing gallery at Changi Airport, seeing the planes taking off.. Duno y, we will make it a pt to go to the airport to sit n talk in most of our meetings, probably it's reli calm our nerves/put our guards down..

Kel is one fortunate n blissful man now.. He managed to find the one he loves finally, and it's reli happy to see him now as he was totally different person in the past.. He was someone who worked (almost) non stop everyday, n was abit stingy(..?) wen it comes to spending money while going out, but yearned for a gf..

I knew him long long time ago, but it was only recent years tat i got contact with him again.. On one occasion, we were talkin abt bgr matters again, n i gave my point of view towards his lifestyle.. I remembered telling him tat 钱是永远赚不完的, and u yearned to find a gf, yet u r not willing to forgo any time to earn money to spend for "her"..? I din expect my words (mayb a few other ppl) was able to change his perceptive towards money n time..

I could see his change these mths.. his life is not so packed as before.. found the love of his life.. doing romantic tings tat i wil never imagine him doin.. and oso planning his future with her included..

Back to the topic.. I was very anxious to find out wat did he do for his gf this time, bcuz he is someone always full of romantic surprises, such as bakin a cake for her bday, cooking for her.. This time round is another happening.. he bought a bouquet of flowers while takin her on citytour bus, n got the tour guide to help him.. he got a round of loud applause from fellow tourists and after hearing, i was like.. "so sweet of him.." Now he had brought the gal back to see his family, next is he will follow her back to her country to see her parents.. and tink they will be stepping into the red carpet in no time.. Jus like any fairytale like story.. Lived happily ever after..

He gave me see some of his sms exchange with his gf, n i realised tat they both cherished one another.. Den it was my turn to share my story.. Thou envious of his romantic story, I was not tempted to look forward to it, cuz I discovered my story is an unique one, or rather, all love stories are different from each other.. thus I derived the following phrase to describe mine..

其实幸福（可以）很简单。。

A love story need not to be very complicated, like goin for expensive places for special occasion, or have to do romantic tings for the other party.. i stil believe tat if u reli like someone, u wil noe wat to do for the other party automatically.. simplicity is happiness.. 简单就是幸福！

暗恋 vs. 喜欢 vs. 爱

3 different stages of love..

暗恋是。。。You get to know someone, and mayb as time goes by, you two became good frens, but you know nothin much about the other party, such as his habits/lifestyle/characteristics and so on.. You slowly developed a form of admiration towards him, bcuz you felt attracted to him (to his outer characteristics..?) 暗恋是最纯的一种，间中带有一点苦涩。。。

喜欢是。。。the next stage of admiration..? This is where you get to know more about the lifestyle/habits/hobbies/characteristics of the person bcuz he give you the chance to see those things you are unaware of all along.. The transition (from admiration) came when you realised that you are still attracted to him even after knowing wat kind of person he is.. 喜欢可以是甜蜜的，但也可以是痛苦的。。。

爱是。。。 probably the last stage.. this is a stage where you reli love someone without any valid reason.. 爱一个人是不需要任何理由的。。。

This post is sth significant to me as I've been thru the 1st stage many times, 2nd stage a few times, and as for the 3rd stage - I suppose soon-to-be..

Updates after Missing in Action..

Dear readers, got miss me? Hehe.. (Provided I have readers to my blog..) It had been a long time since I updated my blog, at most only drop some articles that I found on net.. It's time for me to update as the year is coming to an end soon..

Year 2007 had been an eventful year for me bcuz some changes came to my life and I made some changes too..

I ended my 29 months in fairprice, rotted for abt 2.5 mths before I engaged myself in a new work environment (Community Chest under National Council of Social Service).. Though I have joined the company for almost a mth, I'm still in the stage of getting used to everything as it's reli a totally different environment.. There used to be so many staff under me, now I'm the lowest among the others.. Felt abit small initially bcuz ppl of my age who got the qualifications are of a higher post than me, n moreover I'm doing alot of admin work - kind of no challenge at all.. BUT I believed, given my capabilities, I will be able to handle more impt projects in the near future..

It's kinda 舍不得 to leave fairprice, afterall I have spent my "growing up" years there, n there are so many beautiful memories tat I had left behind, getting to know so many people from all walks of life and background, but I really have to go bcuz we should always look ahead, n I stil have a long road ahead of me.. It's time for me to get interacted with different types of environment and ppl.. Next is I'm a little bit sick of tat kind of lifestyle, having to forfeit PH/offdays (thou it can be very fun during these days), mayb it's time to look for a stable job.. "Putting Down the Past, and Moving On to the Future.."

Another thing to update is probably abt things between me and apple.. I am "honored" to say tat things have been progressing well till now, especially during this month.. I wun touch on the story between us, bcuz it will be super long-winded and will sound abit too dramatic.. Thou we are stil of "unknown" status, but I can say tat we are "somewhere there" to the next stage.. Til now, I stil find it abit hard to digest the fact tat both of us will land up together, bcuz this is sth tat I never given a thought before, probably jus fantacising abt having a guy like him.. (Mayb it's fated tat we will meet in our lifetime..?)

From being jus a big bro to me when I first knew him, to a pillar to lean on when I needed most, and to someone whom I cared for now, this series of events is something tat I would never dream of.. I hv absolute no answer to when he started to have feelings for me, neither do I noe when I started to hv feelings for him too.. (interesting, rite?) Mayb like wat he said tat day, the feeling jus grew gradually..

For the past 6 mths, it can be considered as the most "obvious' period, whereby we could see something is going on, but it is oso a period full of uncertainties and confirmations for me.. Mayb bcuz of prev. experience, I'm tend to be more careful this time round, n consulted alot of guy frens for their opinions n analysis.. I heard both pros n cons from my frens, which at one pt of time, I was tinkin tat wil history repeats itself bcuz thou I might appear strong on the outside, I'm rather weak when it comes to matters of the heart as I am scared of being hurt again.. If tings doesnt turn out well this time, I'm afraid tat I wil totally lose hope in bgr..

Was reading thru my calender in my hp, where I wrote lots of notes b4 I went to slp each nite, and I realised tat I am reli a "tink too much" person, yet I jus cant kick away my habit.. There are many sweet memories written in it, n everytime I read, it jus refreshes my mind and bring me back to the day tat the event happened.. There was a period of time where I felt like givin up on the "unknown" status, as it looked very stagnant, n due to the reason tat we r both "shy", we din touch on much topics abt ourselves.. And some frens ard me were tellin me to give up/learnt to love myself more/stop wasting ur youth waiting & alot more.. But I jus one ear go in and let it digest in my mind.. Thou I can be abit conflicting in my words n actions, I stil understand myself beta than others.. I noe tat if I were to step in further, I will scare of being hurt, if I step out, I will not bear to give up on tat r'ship.. In the end, I chose to listen to my heart n follow wat I feel rite to do..

Luckily and fortunately, I did not do anything silly, n proved that my waiting din come to a waste.. Thou I stil dun reli understand of the sudden progress between us this month, but I can sense that it is a gd start.. I could see him puttin more efforts in, such as bringing me to more places around his place rather than jus the regular ones.. Especially the trip to the temple on xmas day which I realised one ting tat I am attracted to him.. It's tat kind of seriousness/devotion in something tat I saw his "charming" side.. Other than tat, we can be considered as the "cute" gang, cuz we find each other cute in some ways.. I personally tink tat I'm cute in my silly-ness n stupid-ness.. Haha.. As for him, he is cute in his ways which have too many to describe..

It might sound as if I'm sayin aloud tat I have found my Prince Charming finally, but in fact it's not the case, as this r'ship is actually a surprise one, something tat I din expect.. One more thing, no one is perfect, and this applies to the both of us.. Our story behind is similar to a fairytale, yet realistic enough to happen in real life.. I duno wat lies ahead for the both of us, but I noe it will take alot of efforts and barriers for the both of us to overcome in the near future, given tat each of us have different personalities n characteristics..

Last paragraph is meant for Mr. Bear if u happen to see this.. I noe it's best to love myself more so that I can love others, but I got my own definition from this phrase.. the way tat I love myself is by listening to what my heart says, in this case, I chose to love someone.. I saw ur blog, and this is my two cents' worth of comment.. Listen to wat ur heart tells u to do/follow.. Dun purposely suppress ur feelings towards the gal u mentioned in the blog.. wat for making ur conscious and sub-conscious mind fighting each other? why make urself feel so difficult in the situation.. I may not be able understand from ur plight as every one has a different story behind.. Jiayou my fren..